This post is a deliberate departure from our usual kind of post. Educators, to be good educators, need to think about their own welfare.
How do we change the ‘badge of busy’? In the world of ‘busy’ it is easy to overlook how precious we are, how much we matter, and remember to retain our self in the midst of the busy-ness! There is an abundance of ‘busy’ in our system:
- An Open Letter To My Daughter: Busy Is Not A Badge Of Honour
- Busy is the New Black
- Why are we all so busy?
“Let go of the need to be busy and rather just be. Slow down, take it all in and realize that this moment — right here, right now — is precious. When we’re too busy being busy we can miss this amazing life we are living.” – Aimee Raupp
As autumn dazzles us with its golden and red hues, take time to realise that YOU Matter. Your health and well-being matters. It is time to slow down, take time, and take stock. What are you doing to take the best possible care of yourself? To value yourself? To fortify yourself for the coming winter season?
We are often very well rehearsed with valuing others, seeing strength and MAGIC in others. Why do we find it so hard to value, see strength and MAGIC in ourselves.
On October 6 last year, Fionna Wright blogged Quite Simply Included… This post really challenged me to be conscious and alert around every word and action, as each and every word or act seeks to include or exclude. As we turn this inwardly and point the finger at our self, what do we say to our self that is kind? Necessary? Nice? Are we better at building our self up or knocking our self down? Do we even know how to treat our self as we would a very good friend?
We probably all know the saying, “You can’t pour from an empty cup; take care of yourself first”.
“Be gentle first with yourself if you wish to be gentle with others.” ~Lama Yeshe
Maybe you can schedule a precious 17 minutes and 24 seconds to “practice emotional hygiene — taking care of our emotions, our minds, with the same diligence we take care of our bodies.” Guy Winch: Why we all need to practice emotional first aid.
What are you doing to take care of yourself?
Some ideas you might explore?
Mindfulness — Mindfulness is all about bringing our attention to what is occurring in the present moment. “…mindfulness has been shown to benefit our brains to such an extent that we can feel calmer, more aware, have an increased ability to focus and concentrate, remember things better and feel happier.” — NZ Mental Health Foundation Press Release July 2012
Be kind to yourself — Developing Self-Compassion & Learning to Be Nicer to Ourselves. Practise and learn to be kind to yourself
Connect — Find your pack! Connect with others who fill your cup! Take time to seek out and hang out with like-minded individuals. Hang out with people who share your experiences. Whether it is connecting face-to-face or online, spend time with people who value you, and whom you value.
Connect outside your sphere — Educators spend an inordinate amount of time with educators. Join a club, group, craft, sport, and connect with people outside of education. Re-joining a tennis club after a ‘considerable’ absence has been incredibly beneficial for me physically, mentally, and emotionally. Reconnecting with friends from the past is a real ‘blast’.
- Get yourself a fitness tracker — monitor your activity, stay motivated, connect and challenge yourself and others
- Beach Walk
- Garden Walk
- Any walk….
Biophilia — the love of life and living things. All of us have an innate need to connect with nature. Biophilia is increasingly considered with building design to make the most of natural materials and building to allow us to view / connect with nature. I am acutely aware of the feeling of connection in my office with my treetop view. Even without going outside, I feel connected and this brings a certain feeling of tranquility, even on a stormy day.
Gardening — Personally, there is an almost euphoric feeling that comes from time in the garden. Indeed, a prolonged absence from my garden can lead to feelings of disconnect, and unease. “Any environment can promote healing, but gardens are particularly able to do so because humans are hard-wired to find nature engrossing and soothing.” Healing Gardens
Play — “Play can add joy to life, relieve stress, supercharge learning, and connect you to others and the world around you. Play can also make work more productive and pleasurable.” http://www.helpguide.org/
Be neotenous (retain child-like attributes into adulthood)! Blow bubbles, play in the leaves, laugh, and have fun!
Quotes — I love my daily dose of quotes. Some of my favourite sources are:
- Dr Libby on Facebook
- Project Happiness on Twitter and Project Happiness on Facebook
- Mind-Body Wellness on Twitter
- Inspirational Quotes on Twitter
- Motivational Quotes on Twitter
- Motivational Tweets on Twitter
Photography — “Use photography for health and wellbeing. Slow down. Relax. Improve confidence and self-esteem. Learn new skills. Tell your story.”
Share your photo of the day with others. Network and connect with friends sharing…
So, as you begin to wrap around the layers to protect you from the harsh reality of the winter season, wrap around a thick layer of goodness and kindness to yourself. YOU MATTER!
“Be there for others but never leave yourself behind.” – Dodinsky
Say NO more often to the things that stress you, wear you down.
Say YES more often to the things you love, time with family, friends, fun and laughter.
And maybe, just maybe, develop a healthy dose of JOMO — joy of missing out! There is almost always joy to be found in missing out on something, there is almost always a silver lining to that cloud!
What works for you?
What fills your cup?
How do you ensure that you matter?
Please share your ideas below in the comments…
- The You Matter Manifesto http://www.angelamaiers.com/2012/01/the-you-matter-manifesto/
- Classroom Habitudes http://www.angelamaiers.com/2008/10/classroom-hab-2/
- The Holstee Manifesto https://www.holstee.com/pages/manifesto
- Holstee Manifesto stories http://mylife.holstee.com/
- The soothing, healing power of gardens http://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/explore-healing-practices/healing-environment/what-are-healing-gardens
- The benefits of play for adults http://www.helpguide.org/articles/emotional-health/benefits-of-play-for-adults.htm
- Photography for health and well being http://www.look-again.org/photography-workshops/health-wellbeing/